David Marion
Family Recovery Coaching
Recovery Is A Family Process
As the saying goes, substance use and addiction is a family disease. And so too is recovery. Substance use and addiction often creates unhealthy family dynamics that build on top of one another in a vicious cycle.
Through no fault of their own, family members often become absorbed by the addiction of their loved one, resulting in a codependency that often leads the way to further destructive behavior. The result is often a constant sense of frustration, anger and anxiety that afflicts everyone in the family unit.
I have experienced firsthand how substance use disorders affect family members and loved ones. Raised in an addictive home I sought out toxic relationships that emulated my past. It wasn't until I got into recovery that I was able to understand the addiction of my loved one and my role in it, in order to heal, find peace, and enjoy healthy relationships. As a Nationally Certified Family Recovery Coach, it is my mission to help others do the same.
Kim M, Family Recovery Coaching
For the past 4 years, Dana has been a gift to our whole family. Dana has mentored us individually and as a family unit. She has worked with us on everything from treatment options for our loved ones to how to establish boundaries and consequences if they choose not to seek help for themselves. A big take away was that we have no control over our loved alcoholism but we are able to find comfort for ourselves in such a destructive environment. Our family found that our recovery is just as important to each of us individually as it is for the alcoholic members of our family. Dana is always empathetic and compassionate to our needs. She is open, honest and extremely kind. I will always be grateful to Dana for everything she has done and given to our family. She changed our lives!
What Family Recovery Coaching Delivers
As family members of a loved one suffering from addiction, we often focus our energy on different strategies and approaches with the intention of helping to control or stop our loved ones’ addiction. But the unpleasant truth is that these actions are likely ineffective. At the same time, we overlook ourselves, our values and our needs. We lose sight of our own journey, our purpose and our own sense of self love.
As in all coaching, there is no one size fits all approach. One of the most important things in your own recovery is understanding your loved one’s substance use disorder and the effects it has on their physical, mental, and emotional wellbeing (each substance has its own effects!). Helping you understand “why” they just “can’t quit” is essential to how you relate to them. Along with that, each family member has their role within the family.
Do you know which one you are: Enabler, Hero, Lost Child, Mascot or Scapegoat?
You will learn your role, how you got there, how it relates to the addict, and how to change it. By creating a vision and an action plan, replacing old thoughts and behaviors with new ones, and implementing boundaries, you can have all the benefits of happy and healthy relationships while finding peace and contentment for yourself, whether your addicted loved one is finding their own recovery or not.
Whether your loved one is heading into treatment or in early stages of denial, there is no better time for you, the family members, to start your own path of recovery. Family recovery is just as important for the loved ones as recovery is for the addict. It is the means to restore and revitalize our own sense of self, purpose and joy in the miraculous experience of life.
"Leave getting your loved one suffering from addiction into recovery to a professional and start taking care of yourself."
Improving the family dynamic with Family Recovery Coaching, is also an important part to successful and lasting recovery for your loved one suffering from addiction. Changing your role in relation to the addict can be the catalyst for your loved one to seek their own help or help them stay on their path of recovery. Staying in the same roles that keeps the family stagnant will lead to the destruction of recovery. I'm here to help you, the loved ones, on your journey to healthy and happy relationships.